Chanele’s Check-In: August 2017

In August, I…

Books I Read:

  • The Hate U Give (review coming soon!)

In September, I’m looking forward to…

  • Renewing my sense of focus
  • Being featured in a campaign by one of my favourite brands
  • Celebrating my 2 year wedding anniversary
  • Shooting some fall outfit photos
  • Finishing up my User Experience Design course

Expectations and disappointments

They say August is a month of new beginnings. After all, it’s the month before “back to school” so it’s no wonder many of get excited for the impending fresh start.

I’m one of those people. As soon as August hits, I start to get into “refresh mode” – almost like a second opportunity to start new and crush my goals for the rest of the year. So like any other year, I had set goals and expectations in August and got some amazing opportunities that initially aligned with said goals and then…they fell through.

Was I upset? Come on, you should know better than to ask. If you’ve been following along with my check-in posts each month, you know that crying is typically my default reaction to anything. Happy? Cry. Sad? Cry. Frustrated? Cry. That’s me in a nutshell.

But after that initial disappointment, I actually felt kind of empowered (and happy – but more on that later). Through that experience, I spent a lot of time self-analyzing and realized that I have this tendency to set my expectations way too high. I realized – if I try to get better at managing my expectations, the disappointment won’t hurt as much. 

My thing has always been that if I don’t set high expectations it may come off as me being negative and I typically like to be very optimistic. More often than not, I give people the benefit of the doubt – are you like this too? 

I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately especially as I get older and realize how society contributes to these expectations. Go to school, work hard, get a job, get married, etc. etc. It’s all supposed to be easy peasy. But not often do we stop and think about whether we’re trying to live by our own expectations or those that other people have for us. Which leads me to my next point of discussion…

“So, when are you going to work on DWDW full-time?”

That my friends, is one of the most commonly asked questions that I get. Like all.the.time. 

And for the longest time, my response would be “Soon!” and I would give some sort of timeline. 

The thing I never stopped to think about though is – I actually don’t mind working. In fact, I’m pretty good at it. For my day job, I work in digital marketing and communications. Even as I start to really figure out what particular things I like and don’t like, I’m enjoying this phase in my career. 

All of this to say – I want to keep working, as much as I can because the experiences that I gain through my career have helped fuel Do Well Dress Well. It’s where I get 90% of the inspiration for new blogposts and it’s what I hope makes me somewhat credible when I share my career advice with you. 

I mentioned being happy about the opportunities falling through. Well, the experience has allowed me to regain focus and reevaluate what my goals are. It has empowered me in ways I haven’t felt before and that makes all the disappointment worth it.

But wouldn’t you love more time? 

Oh, absolutely. But I’ve also had a chance to reevaluate how I’m spending my time and I’ve realized that I can be much more efficient. So why give myself more time when I’m not being fully productive with the time I do have? Full-time entrepreneurship is not for everyone nor do you have to rush to get there. Respect and trust the process and do things when you’re ready – not when other people tell you that you should be.

I went back and forth on whether or not I should post this. That’s why I’m publishing this a lot later in the month than usual. But I decided to go for it because I know I’m not alone and I hope that through my openness, it encourages you to find the silver lining in any disappointment. You’re awesome and the opportunities that are meant for you will never pass you by. 

Until next month,


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